Why Would You Trust Me?

Trust is something that needs to earned. There needs to a connection and some credibility to a person in order for you to trust them. I get that more than you'll know so I'm well aware I need to build your trust.

Dave and I are a husband and wife team who own our business together but we have different roles and clients within our business. We both have had to prove ourselves, show our knowledge and build a relationship with our clients in order for there to be complete trust.

My clients are women who are looking to gain confidence and learn to love themselves for the first time, or again through their health and fitness journey. Letting someone in and help you to build your confidence is very delicate and requires complete trust.

Let me give you some background so you know where I'm coming from. Maybe my story will relate to you.

I was a very shy child who grew fast and was larger than most children my age. I'm not talking about fat, I was tall and skinny. This made me an easy target for being bullied and I was. I always took it and never stood up for myself. As a result I was very withdrawn and shy as a child and teenager. Once you got to know me I never shut up but it took a bit to get to the point. I spent most of my time alone watching and observing everyone else.

I also grew up with a family that was always dieting. There were so many diets and we always talked about the diets and what new diet we were trying out now. I remember being on my first diet at 11 years old. This led to disordered eating, whether binging on junk food and then trying to work it off, or being so strict with my food. This also let me to constantly checking my weight and always being very well aware of it. As a teenager I thought I was so fat and no one was ever going to want me.

My shyness and lack of self confidence led to letting people and boys take advantage of me. I was a pushover. Then once I had no more to give, they left. I was no longer useful and was discarded like trash.

At 19 I got married and continued to let people dictate and walk all over me. I gained significant weight after I got married as we were under so much stress. I never got on a scale at my heaviest but I know I was well over 300lbs. I dealt with the stress through eating and sleeping. We went through a really rough 2.5 years. At 20 I started going to Curves, a gym for women and I started working out. I lost some weight and then was hired to work there. I loved every minute of it and that's when my love for fitness and nutrition grew. I couldn't get enough. I was reading articles, buying books and magazines. I gained all the knowledge in the world but yet I couldn't control my own eating habits.

Over the next several years, I gained and lost significant amounts of weight. I knew what I needed to do, I knew how to get healthy, but I didn't love myself enough to do it. I used food and exercise as rewards and punishments. I was my biggest abuser and spent years abusing my body.

It was September, 2020. I remember this day like it was yesterday. I was turning 37 that month. I was sitting in my office at a job that was only supposed to be temporary, evaluating my life. I spent my days going to work, and then coming home and falling asleep on the couch until I went to bed. My body hurt, I had so much brain fog, my stomach was a mess, I was chronically tired, and I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was also working a job I didn't enjoy. I took a hard look at my life that day. Is this how I was going to spend the rest of my life? I wasn't there for my family because I was too busy working and sleeping. I was too young to live this way. That day I decided my life had to change. I had to make some serious physical and mental changes, and start pursing my dreams and passions. I knew I wanted to coach other women but I couldn't in the shape I was in. Who was going to take an overweight, exhausted, out of shape women seriously? I didn't even take myself seriously.

I started with what I considered the most important issue, I learned how to heal my gut. (I'll do another post on this, but your gut is so connected not only to your physical health but also you mental). Healing my gut improved my physical symptoms but it also helped my mental.

Then I had to start dealing with the baggage that I had buried way down deep. That honestly was the hard part. There were things I had pushed and buried so deep that I forgot about them. I had to face demons I didn't want to face and heal. I won't even pretend that was easy. It was quite painful to be quite honest. I had harbored so much pain and bitterness and I had to release that.

Then I had to learn how to love me. That was hard too. I spent so much time hating my body and who I was. I had absolutely no confidence in myself. I had to learn to love my body as it was in that moment. I also had to learn that I was worth and deserved more.

Once we got to the point where my health was better and I started to believe in myself, I started pursing my dreams. I talked with Dave and shared what my dreams and passions were and I would like to start to pursue them. Dave looked at me and said absolutely, I support you 100%. Let's do this together! I could have cried. I have never encountered that kind of support before. I said but this is risky! We're talking about walking away from our jobs that paid us a pretty decent salary. He said that's ok, that's not your dream, let's do this together. We'll figure it out along the way.

Had I not worked on loving myself and building my confidence, I would have never taken the risk.

Fast forward to today. I went to school, got my Personal Training, Corrective Exercise, and Nutrition certifications. We opened our online coaching business and gym. We've become coaches at Main Event Boxing Club and coaching some clients privately to go Amateur. I'm currently taking a Holistic Nutrition Course and we have some other exciting things we're working on.

Over the last 2 years, I have pursued my passion and helped women shed fat, become healthier versions of themselves and most importantly, learn how to love themselves again. This job is the most fulfilling and rewarding job and I would not give it up for the world. I feel like I'm making a difference in people's lives. I'm sharing my story to help other women realize they are not alone. I'm building relationships that are impacting me more than them.

Knowing a little bit about me, and this is just a small portion of my life, I hope helps build and learn you can trust me with your situation. Believe me when I say, I care about you, the whole you. I want to see you become the confident woman you were meant to be. I want to help you realize your potential and start believing in yourself again. I want to help you with your fitness and nutrition needs.

Will you trust me?

I hope so.

I'm here if you need to chat! I love you all!

Rennie